11 Things Mentally Tough People Do
We all reach critical points in our lives where our mental toughness is tested. It might be a toxic friend or colleague, a dead-end job, or a struggling relationship. After all, it only takes one bad habit to hold you back from reaching your greatest potential. In addition to giving up those bad habits, however, it’s also important to perform exercises that build your mental muscle. With hard work and dedication, you can train your brain to perform at your peak.
It sounds easy. But it isn’t.
It’s hard to be mentally tough, especially when you feel stuck. The ability to break the mold and take a bold new direction requires that extra grit, daring, and spunk that only the mentally toughest people have.
So here are 11 things mentally strong people do:
1.They speak clearly.
Most of us have a difficult time communicating clearly, but that is a symptom of not thinking clearly. Most tell others what they don’t want, but have an extremely difficult time saying what it is they do want. We come by it honestly. Our parents raised us that way. “Look both ways when you cross the street.”
“Why?” ,“So you don’t get hit.”
2. They accept challenges.
Mentally strong people view adversity as an opportunity to grow stronger. With each obstacle they overcome, they gain confidence in their ability to become better.
3. They Neutralize Toxic People.
Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. Mentally tough people control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their emotions and don’t allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos Even when things completely derail, mentally tough people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
4. They learn from their mistakes.
When you fixate on the problems that you’re facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. Rather than beat themselves up for their mistakes, mentally strong people focus on learning from them. They accept full responsibility for their behavior and choose to move forward in a productive manner.
5.They “love” precision.
Once we move things into the fact column from the truth column, we ask, “Can this fact be more exact?” Be precise and specific. A common occurrence at work is when the boss drops one more thing on your plate and says, “I need this ASAP.”
With daily practice, thinking like this becomes natural and fluid and orders your thoughts, emotions and attitudes, and that is the sweet spot of mental toughness.
6. They focus on the things they can control.
Mentally strong people stay productive and effective by focusing on the things they have control over. Rather than waste energy worrying about whether the storm will come, they invest their efforts into preparing for it the best they can.
7. They Exercise.
A study conducted at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more socially, intellectually, and athletically competent.Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, which is key to mental toughness, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference.
8. They Say No.
Research conducted at the University of California in San Francisco showed that the more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression. Mentally tough people know that saying no is healthy, and they have the self-esteem and foresight to make their nos clear.
The mentally tough also know how to exert self-control by saying no to themselves. They delay gratification and avoid impulsive action that causes harm.
9. They view failure as an opportunity for growth.
Failure is often part of any long journey toward success. Mentally strong people accept that and they choose to use each failure as an opportunity to grow wiser.
10. They Limit Their Caffeine Intake.
Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline, the source of the fight-or-flight response. The fight-or-flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response to ensure survival. This is great when a bear is chasing you but not so great when life throws you a curve.
When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper-aroused state of stress, your emotions overrun your behavior.Mentally tough people know that too much caffeine is trouble, and they don’t let it get the better of them.
11. They expend their mental energy wisely.
Instead of complaining about things they can’t change or rehashing something that happened yesterday, mentally strong people devote their energy to productive tasks. They don’t waste limited resources, like time and energy, on things that aren’t helpful.